365 Personal Development Tips 11-20

Personal Development tips can be so valuable to our growth. Personal development is about growth, body, mind and soul. Many of the tips I share, have been past down to me from my Mother, Grandparents, Friends and Extraordinary people I have admired and looked up to over the years.

As the old quote says “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Not matter what reason people always leave a tip or two.

Tip #11 – Be Kind to Everyone

One of the greatest joys I get is seeing a person’s eyes light up when I show them kindness. I believe that kindness is lacking in our society today because people are sceptical of a kind act. However, this is not true to those more vulnerable or innocent, such as the homeless, elderly, kids, and animals. My partner and I will not walk past a homeless person without offering to buy them something to eat and in most cases, give them some money. It is not the money that gives these people joy, it is the sheer fact that someone has stopped to show them kindness. When you show someone who may be down on their luck a bit of kindness, you will see just how grateful and humble a human can be. However, do not limit yourself to anyone in particular be kind to everyone.

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Tip #12 – Work on your Core Muscles

Many moons ago I meet a guy once who had ABs of steel, no joke they were incredible. I asked him  what he was doing to get such an impress six-pack . His response was five thousand (5000) sit-ups a week. That memory has stayed with me for an exceptionally long time, and when COVID-19 hit, and
we went into lockdown, I thought about that guy and thought I would try it. Turns out five thousand sit-ups a week is no easy feat, well at least for me anyway. I have managed to do two-hundred sit-ups per day, which is about fifteen hundred (1500) per week so far.

Fifteen hundred (1500) sit-ups /crunches/Abdominal exercise have yielded me some impressive results. thus far. My belly has drastically reduced in size, and I have a much firmer midsection. I still have more work to do, but I have maintained two hundred (200) or more a day for the past six (6) months.
I started my Abs of steel journey doing twenty (20) per day, and slowly increased this to fifty (50) per day. Some days, I break up the two hundred (200) into rounds of fifty (50) spread throughout the day.

Working on my abs everyday has not only given me a great stomach, but better posture and I feel more confident. I walk taller and feel a lot more confident. I have limited eating pasta, potatoes and limited my bread intake as these foods bloat my stomach. I challenge you to give it a go, age and size is no barrier, just start with a few crunches per day and work your way up. I have added inside crunches, planks, and other abdominal training varieties as an extra to the two hundred (20)0 per day. My goal is to hit that five thousand (5000) per week.

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Tip #13 – Avoid Anything Toxic

Toxins can affect us in more ways than we know, therefore, try to avoid them as much as possible. We often forget that toxins are not just environmental, like pollution, so here is a reminder of what to avoid. Although not an exhaustive list. Some of the more well-known and apparent Toxins.

Human Toxins– Negative People, Gossiping, Swearing,
Spreading Rumours, Bullying, Talking Badly about Someone. Fat Shaming. Cyber
Bullying. The Tall Poppy Syndrome. Road Rage. Violence. Nasty people. Criminal
activity. Rude People. Cruelty. Destructive Behaviour. Dishonesty. Disrespect.
Unhealthy Relationships. Selfishness.

Man-Made Toxins- Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking. Pornography.
Toxic Foods and Chemicals- see below.

Toxic Foods– Fatty foods, High sugar, High fructose corn
syrup, and Starchy Foods. Saturated Fats. Trans Fats. Processed Foods.
Artificial Colours and Flavours. Polycyclic Aromatic Hydrocarbons (PAHs) (Red
Meats). Mercury in Fish. Monosodium Glutamate (MSG). Sodium Nitrate. Caffeine
(although hard to avoid :)).

Pollution– Environmental, Air, Water and Noise.

Chemicals– Pesticides. Parabens, Sulphate Bisphenol-A
(BPA). Ammonia. to name a minimal list

Tip #14 – Take a Walk Every day.

I was recently reminded by the CEO of my current workplace how important it is to get out and go for a walk. Often, especially at work, we can be tied to our desks and do not take the time to go for a walk. When we get out, we exercise, breathe in some fresh air, and get some sunshine. A walk whether at work or
home has many benefits and we should do this more often. Buy some good runners, go for a 15-minute walk. You can use the time to meditate, Listen to music or a podcast, have an enjoyable conversation or take your kids for a bike ride.

Tip #15 – Learning a New Skill Increases your Value.

In today’s modern world, it is no longer just ok to learn one skill. If you want to move ahead in your area of expertise, change your career or better yourself, then it is important to diversify your skills. Having new skills can make you an unbelievably valuable asset and even more beneficial if you have multiple skills in various areas. Furthermore, the more diverse your skills are, the better you become as a person, making you even more employable.

What skills should you learn, and how do you learn a new skill?

It is a great question, and it all depends on your current situation, environment and where you see yourself in the future. My future goal is to be running a successful online retail business; therefore, I have identified that I need to learn skills such as marketing, SEO, google ads, and social media marketing, to name a few. Of
course, I could always outsource any of these skills, and I will. However, if I do not have these skills, how can I find someone who is the expert in that skill to outsource in the first place?

Tip #16 – Exercise your Legs.

When you train your legs in the gym, your core and cardiovascular system also get a workout. There is a reason many people avoid training their legs, it is a hard workout and can often wipe you out. That is the idea!

Exercise your legs more than your upper body and reap the rewards. You will have a more muscular stance, stronger mid-section, buns of steel and stronger inner core muscles. As we age, our pelvic floor muscle become weak if we do not train them, and this can lead to all sorts of challenges. Training legs using weight will help tighten all that up for you.

If you are not sure where to start to try this routine, start with bodyweight, and slowly add weight. Although I encourage you to work out in a gym, this routine can be done anywhere, at any time. Adding weight to your body is only limited by your imagination. During the lockdown, I had my son on my back while
I performed the below routine, apart for jumping as this may cause injury.

20 x Body Weight Squats x 4

20 x Lunges x 4

20 x Single Leg Squats x 3

For an added extra kick add- 50 x Jump Squats plus 50 Jump Lunges x 2 (Caution
do not do any jumping exercises with weights if you have bad knees, ankles, hips,
or any back issues).

If you can manage to get to a gym, you can also add the Leg Press, Deadlifts and Machines for an extra leg workout.

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Tip- #17 – Learn Something New Everyday

Humans are creatures that strive to learn every day. How good does it feel when you learn something new? It may be something as small as trivia or something large like a new system at work. Either we should be seeking to learn something. If you learn something new by mistake all that much better. I challenge you to learn one new thing every day. If you get to the end of the day and have not learnt something, subscribe to a
Word App such as Vocabulary.com and learn a new word, grammar, spelling and vocabulary.

Tip #18 – Increase your Software Knowledge.

Do you know what all the buttons in the taskbar in Microsoft Word or Excel?

Do you know what the F buttons on a keyboard are for?

You may not have advanced computers or software skills like Microsoft Word or Excel. However, with only fifteen minutes of training per day, you can become advanced in any computer software you like, and very fast. LinkedIn Learning has many training courses that can help you in learning
or developing your software skills. Learning or enhancing your computer skills adds value to your ever growing skill set. When you learn a new skill on LinkedIn learning you are rewarded with a certificate which you can link directly to your LinkedIn account for everyone to see. Furthermore, LinkedIn learning has a plethora of other skills you can learn as well. Do yourself a favour subscribe today.

Tip #19 – Watch Documentaries

When you watch a documentary, you often learn things you never knew about.
Furthermore, your newfound knowledge can be an enjoyable conversation starter. You could even store the facts you learn for another day in time as a contestant on a game show. These days we are spoilt for choice regarding documentaries, whether it be about someone famous, infamous, history, science, global warming, or social media the options are endless.

Streaming services such as Netflix have some cool documentaries in many genres. However, you cannot go past the documentaries that Sir David Attenborough has produced such as, the OUR PLANET series, some powerful and informative stuff. If you have not seen the social dilemma (also on netfilx), watch it and let me know what you think.

Tip #20 – Train your Brain

Sudoku, Crossword puzzles and Jigsaw puzzles are excellent brain training tools. Playing puzzles can be fun, challenging, and frustrating. But they are extremely rewarding when you figured them out and complete them. You may not solve the puzzle in fifteen (15) minutes, however, try to work on a puzzle
for about 15 minutes each day. According to James Pickett, head of research at the UK’s Alzheimer’s Society suggests that playing “brain games” such as Sudoku may not prevent dementia but has been shown that regularly challenging yourself mentally seems to build up the brain’s ability to cope with the disease.

Other benefits include- Puzzles exercise both sides of the brain, increase your mood through dopamine release, they improve memory, improve your problem-solving skills, improve your visual and spatial reasoning, lower your stress levels, and they can improve your IQ score. Need another reason to do a
puzzle, they are family-friendly and fun.

Be your best Marc Matthews-Indovino

365 Personal Development Tips 5-10

Tips 5-10

During our lifetime we learn many lessons. Many, I wish I had known as a kid, but grateful I have learnt them now. Personal development is about continually improving and growing. We never stop learning, and we often learn lessons that change the way we think, act, and behave. Life lessons can usually change the course of our life, sending us down a completely different path to the one we are on now.

Some lessons are simple and some more complex, yet every lesson has the potential to shape you into a more successful person. Much of these lessons come from simple little tips of advice such as these gems.

Tip #5 – Never Post Anything Negative

If you do not have anything nice to say, do not say anything at all. It is better to be humble than to be nasty and destroy a person’s confidence because you disagree with a comment they made on social media. Posting negative comments only make you look bad, not them.

The same goes for writing reviews. I often write reviews for many businesses. I am a consumer of, be it a hotel, resort, take away shop, or supermarket to name a few. I used to write both positive and negative comments. Until one day, my partner pointed out that writing a negative review about a business can really affect that business, and that I am better than that. I thought about what he said, and I immediately took down any negative review. I made a conscious decision to find the positive in every business experience I wrote a review about. I took my own advice.

If I receive a poor customer service experience, instead of posting a disparaging review I email or call the business and give them my feedback in a constructive way. Companies do not go out of their way to provide a bad customer experience. Sometimes it just happens. The best way to go about this is in a positive, constructive way. The business will thank you for the feedback and use it to improve their processes.

When giving feedback, ensure you are calm, kind, and considerate. Let the manager know of your concern or complaint. You will be pleasantly surprised by the outcome. Negativity serves no purpose and only encourage more negative behaviour.

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Tip #6 – Be Persistent

Do not give in to procrastination, laziness, or disappointment, and most certainly do not let negative thoughts stop you moving forward. Keep working toward your goals as consistently as possible. Set your mind on achieving your objectives every day, and this attitude will become part of your personality. If you have big dreams, work on them even if only a little bit every day. If you fail, get back up and be persistent. If you want anything in life, you need to be persistent.

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Tips #7 – Learn to be Resilient

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines resilient as a. capable of withstanding shock without permanent deformation or rupture and b. tending to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.

You can do this by pushing past fears and focusing on your personal goals. Suppose you move through what scares you like facing toxic habits, dismissing unhealthy relationships, learning new skills, or jumping out of a plane. In that case, you empower yourself to recognise your value and worth. Build resiliency by facing your fears which will increase your inner strength and helps you grow in self-awareness.
 
Changing your mindset is the fastest way to build resilience. Using words like “don’t,” “can’t,” “no” or “won’t” are negatively associated words and often hold us back from great experiences in life. If you can change your mindset to associated favourable terms such as “can,” “will do” or “yes” you can find the freedom to explore new options. Just watch the movie YES MAN to see what I mean.

If you sometimes face adversity or struggles, you often feel overwhelmed. You may not be able to talk about what is bothering you with anyone. This often leads to a vicious cycle where nothing is ventured, and nothing gained. A terrific way to enhance your resilience and realign your needs and thoughts is through writing them down.

Take control of your life by choosing to look at adversity as empowering and start using positive words like “thriving” and “empowered.” By doing so, you will view your world from a unique perspective. Resiliency is about reframing adverse life events as a way of rising to new challenges and conquering them. When you are resilient, you will view challenges in your life as exciting and motivating, and you will start to set new goals.

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Tip #8 – Be a Good Driver

How does being a good driver help with personal development?

If you turn the tables and think about all the things associated with an inconsiderate driver such as speeding, cutting people off, road rage, talking on their phones and texting while driving. You can start to appreciate the benefits that being a good driver can have on your personal development.

Firstly, nothing good comes from being an inconsiderate driver. You are either in a hurry or a stupid, reckless, selfish person. Doing any of these activities while driving can and do lead to accidents. Often causing harm to you, someone you love or someone you do not know. Furthermore, the financial cost could be detrimental to your life if you happened to injury someone or lose your licence, and you need your car for work.

I have a friend who continues to speed, talk on the phone and texts, and yes, they are stupid, reckless, and selfish. The amount of money they have spent on fines and court cases could have bought them a house. Why waste money and risk your life or someone else’s just to get from A to B a little quicker, makes no sense. There is a technology called hands free, and that text message will still be there when you get to your destination. If the text message is that crucial pullover, better still turn your phone to send a text that you are driving and cannot answer the phone.

A good driver learns patience and resilience. Often you are more alert with what is going on around you. I have avoided many near misses by other people because I was driving slowly, being careful and being alert. We cannot always predicate what another driver may do. However, if you drive carefully, within the speed limit and focus on your surroundings, you build confidence, patience, and resilience. Also, I find that I am stress-free, even when some loon gives me the bird or honks their horn.

Oh, by the way, a good driver is one who lets a car in and waves when someone lets them in.

Tip #9 – Groom Yourself

Most women I know do this very well; however, many men I know do not. Grooming yourself is a part of your self-care and is recommended daily. My sister Simone (A expert groomer) once said to me, “You must always look your best because you never know who you might meet”. She never left the house unless she was looking her best, and I challenge you to do the same.

Men often think that grooming is for women. However, many men are engaging in grooming these days, and many businesses now cater to men only grooming. Men have rougher skin than women and sometimes require different products. A product I have recently come across and is impressive. The LUMIN range of skin products for men, check them out here LUMIN Store they offer a ridiculously cheap trial, and I was so impressed I bought more products.

When it comes to grooming, include these into your daily routine.

Good Hair Care- Keep your hair clean and styled. Use good products to wash and stay away from parabens or other chemicals. Find a styling agent that works for your hair, ask a barber or a hairstylist to help you if in doubt. My parents always had great hair. Great hair shows people you take pride in your appearance.

Good Teeth Care- Brush your teeth and floss as often as possible, minimum twice a day. Make sure you see the dentist every 6 months, even for a scale and clean. When you have nice clean teeth, you tend to smile more often, showing you are happy, confident, and friendly.

Good Face Care- Use good products and clean your face daily. If you have facial hair keep it neat and tidy including the nose and ear hair. Using a good moisturiser can help with any dry skin.

Good Nail Care- Ensure you keep your nails clean and neat. Men do not be afraid to have a manicure and pedicure they are amazing, and a well-kept set of nails can say a lot about a person.

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Tip #10 – Drink Water

Water has so many benefits to your health and wellbeing and should be a massive part of your nutrition plan. I carry a generous size VOSS water bottle and fill it as I need it. The large bottle is 800ml, and I make sure I drink 2.5 of them per day. However, you may need more or less depending on your body type and activation levels. I like the VOSS bottle because it is made of glass, suitable water bottle made from a substance such as glass, or metals are a better choice than plastic.

Benefits of drinking water include (BBC Good food 2021)

  • It may improve memory and mood.
  • It can help reduce sugar cravings and aid weight maintenance.
  • It may improve exercise performance.
  • It may reduce headaches and migraines.
  • It may help prevent constipation in children and adults.
  • It may help to prevent kidney stones.
  • It may help reduce the risk of bladder infections

These are great reasons to drink plenty of water, so do your body a favour and drink up. If you dislike water, try lemon, lime, cucumber, or strawberry-infused water a delicious treat.

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365 Personal Development Tips

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Recently I read an amazing book that has motivated me to commit to writing and posting more often than I have been. The book I read is called NOT A LIFE COACH by James Smith, I highly recommend you check it out, a great and often funny read. The book reminded me of many things and also taught me a thing or two, mainly that to achieve my dreams I need to work harder than I ever have before. I am not afraid of hard work therefore, the first step for me is to nurture this blog by committing to providing everyone 365 tips. This of course just the tip of the iceberg, so watch this space a lot planned for 2021.

Here are the first 4 tips enjoy!

Tip #1 – Stop Making New Year’s Resolutions

As we enter another new year many of us will set new year’s resolutions which according to the oxford dictionary is ‘a firm decision to do or not to do something’.

Often people who make a New year’s resolutions a huge percentage of these people, are making the same resolutions in 12 months’ time. Are you one of these people, that year after year you set new year’s resolutions but by the time Easter comes around you have settled back into your old habits or given up on the resolutions all together as it was just too hard?

There is a good reason why we continue failing at the resolutions we set every new year. In mostly all cases we do not have a plan.

The resolution is a firm decision to do something. You make a decision such as lose some weight, join a gym, eat better, save more money, etc, but for the majority of people this is where the resolution fails. The reason here is simple you have only made a decision. Your decision needs a plan, starting with a smart goal. A smart goal is a great way to ensure you have planned your resolution properly.

Smart goal:

Something you can stick to

Measureable, How do you know you are achieving this goal?

Achievable, How are you going to achieve this goal?

Realistic, Is your goal a realistic goal or is it just impossible to achieve?

Time, does you goal have a time when you will achieve this by?

Planning when to start is equally important. The resolution you made at New year’s would normally start on the worst time of year, January 1st. Instead of making your resolutions to start January 1st, think about the best possible time that you can start your smart goal that you can stick to for at least 21 days. According to Dr Maxwell Maltz a plastic surgeon in the 1950s published his findings and found that it takes 21 days to form a habit. If you have anything going on between January 1st and January 21st that would hinder your smart goal, then change your start date.

Furthermore, you may lack direction, knowledge, motivation, and determination to achieve the resolution.

Often your resolution is unachievable. Many people overestimate just how hard it can be to achieve a goal like lose weight or change your eating habits. If you have made the same resolution year after year then it is time to stop and think about why you are not achieving the goal. Maybe you need professional help.

Personal development is about setting and achieving goals to become better. Therefore say no to resolutions and yes to smart goals. Set these goals whenever you feel the need to achieve something. Do not be governed by a New Year and always remember to make a plan because failing to plan is planning is fail.

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Tip #2 – Start Saving Money Every Week

If you read any type of financial, how to become rich books, you will find than most financial Gurus will say save at least 10% of what you earn every week. I know from experience this is not always that easy and more often than we do not save any money at all.

A tip I was given when I was very young was to save your money, I only took on this advice when I had kids of my own, but it is never too late to start saving. Save something, anything, just save something each week no matter what. Start small and build it up.

I have found what works for me is to find a savings account that you can set up on a direct debit, with the highest percentage rate you can find. Once you set it up just leave and forget about it. Start with as little as $10 per week and before you know it you will start to see a nice nest egg. I have done this for my kids as well.

Did you know if you saved $100 per week you would have $5,200 in the bank at the end of the year with interest, even at 2% you would have $5,304 which would compound as each year progresses, (Year 2 $10,714), (Year 3 $16,232), (Year 4 $21,860) not bad for 4 years approx $1000 of free money in 4 years.

Tip #3 – Work Out (Exercise) Everyday

Need I say anymore on this topic?

There is a mountain of evidence that exercise improves you in more ways that you can count, here are some of my favourite things exercising can do for you.

  1. Makes you happier
  2. Healthier
  3. Fitter
  4. Stronger
  5. Better posture and strong core
  6. You sleep better
  7. Breath better
  8. Gives you more confidence
  9. You can avoid nasty illness
  10. Avoid getting diabetes
  11. Increase blood supply to your vital organs
  12. Avoid heart damage or a stroke
  13. Become more youthful
  14. And best of all you can look hot in the mirror naked

Tip #4 – Learn Something New Everyday

There are many things that can be satisfying and learning something new is definitely at the top of the list for me. I love it when I learn something new everyday especially with the plethora of information available to learn. I especially like learning new things out of my scope of expertise and find it especially useful in my personal development, for example new words, trivia, history or a new skill to name a few.

What I recently found interesting is that we often don’t know what we think we know until we don’t know. Confused?

Let me put it into perspective. I consider myself pretty intelligent and think I know the meaning of English words, that is until I used a word recently and my 6 year old son asked me what does that word mean.

I was caught off guard and thought how do I explain a word in a way that a 6 year old can understand without asking more questions. Not as easy as it sounds, let me tell you. What I have learnt is that I have become complacent with the English language and taken words for granted. I have never thought about the meaning of a word until I had to explain it so that a 6 year old can understand, thank God for Google.

Personal development is all about learning news things. However, challenge yourself to learn things you know nothing about. Watch documentaries, read books on topics you are unfamiliar with, learn a new skill on LinkedIn learning, there are a plethora of ways to learn something new. Google is a great place to start.

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