365 Personal Development Tips 29-39

Tip #29 – Don’t Swear

Need I say more. I understand why people have the need to swear. However, swearing is a choice, and the better option is not to swear. There is no need for it; it makes you look cheap and smutty. As a leader or manager, you are not setting a good example. Set a good example and choose to create a culture of respect for others and do not tolerate swearing.

Tip #30 – Don’t Take it Personally

One of the fundamental tools to have in your emotional toolkit is resilience. We often hear in business terms such as “Its not personal it is only business “or “Try not to take things personally”. I know from experience that this is not as easy as it sounds. However, as I have been searching for a new opportunity, I have learnt not to take rejection personally. Instead, I have used rejection as a strength and a lesson to learn and grow and get better for the next interview.

You see, a rejection is not a personal attack on you. This was put into context by a job I just missed out on recently. The hiring manager told me there were over 140 applicants, and they have to narrow it down to the top 10, which I was in the top 5. She said I would be perfect for the job, and the decision was tough, but in the end, they only had 1 job.

For the first time ever, I walked away from the rejection with a sense of pride as I knew I did my best. The best part was I had not worked in a role like this before, so to be in the top 5 to me was impressive.

A recruitment agent said to me that getting a new job is a numbers game and to keep trying, keep applying and with each unsuccessful attempt, you will get better at the interview process and eventually land the job that is right for you.

Tip #31 – Eat Clean

I have mentioned this a few times in my previous post but thought it a perfect one to share as a Tip, because of the benefits of eating clean. I have discovered lately that not all healthy food tastes bland. I gave up all processed food to see how clean I could eat for the next three months. Therefore I can only eat raw foods, such as Fruits, Vegetables, Meats, Eggs, Coffee and Water. I use lemon, salt, olive oil and Turmeric to season my foods. The benefits so far have been incredible- Fat is melting away, my digestive system is clean, and I feel awesome.

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Tip #32 – Buy the Best Suit you can Afford

My first suit was a $100 suit from a cheap clothes store, and when I look back, I cringe at how bad that suit was. But hey, it was all I could afford at the time, and it served its purpose. However, it made me look cheap. After admiring my mentors, I noticed one thing that they all had in common. The suits they wore looked great, and they looked professional in them. I discovered that the more expensive a suit is, the better it will fit you and look on you and the more confidence you will feel.

My next suit was $400 and fitted much better and looked great. I then upgraded to $600 and then an $800 suit. Suits in this price range look amazing and feel really great to wear. Of course, I could only afford the last suit as my wage had increased, But money well spent.

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Tip #33 – Be Persistent

Don’t give in to laziness or disappointment. Keep moving toward your goal as consistently as possible. If you set your mind on achieving your objectives every day, this attitude will become part of your personality. Preserve in everything you do. Remember that practice makes perfection, and perfection makes you the expert. One of my motivations for writing this blog is learning to touch type. Writing the blog takes extra time to type without looking at the keyboard and typing with accuracy. I want to touch type over 60 words per minute (WPM). Currently, I am at 33 wpm with 100% accuracy. All I need now is to learn to spell, LOL.

Tip #34 – Take Full Responsibility for your Actions

Do not blame other people when you make an error, own up and own the mistake. You must always take full responsibility for your actions. Do not blame others for your bad situation. You are responsible for how your life is, blaming others is not the best way to overcome it.

Tip #35 – Be Proud of Who you Are

No matter your size, shape, colour, race, or sex, you should always be proud of who you are and where you have come from. Never let anyone tell you, you are not good enough, smart enough or anything negative. We all have had some type of struggles in life, and maybe some of you still do. However, these struggles only make you stronger, so embrace the hard times and find your strength to carry on. You are so worth it.

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Tip #36 – Acknowledge

When someone does something for you or someone at work does a good job, make sure you notice and acknowledge them. Do not let the opportunity to praise or thank someone go by.

Tip #37 – Never Humiliate Anyone

No matter the situation, never humiliate someone. If a person or child has made an error keep your cool, and when given a chance, quietly and in private, have a chat and help them if needed. If you humiliate someone, they will hold a grudge against you.

Tip #38 – Be a Good Example

People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say, Be someone worth emulating. Do not ever think that a job is beyond or above you. If you expect someone to do a task, make sure you are also willing to do it. There is usually only one job I won’t do, and that is clean up vomit. Therefore I would not expect anyone else to either. I have always given people an opportunity when they have gone over and above their core duties. Be that person, and many options will open up for you as well

Tip # 39 – Be Vulnerable

Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They will understand that they are not the only ones with challenges. Do not be afraid to ask questions even if you think they are silly and that you should know the answer. It is always good to clarify. Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of strength.

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365 Personal Development Tips 21- 27

Tip #21 – It is Never Too Late to Start a University Degree

Completing a University degree for the first time later in your life can have many benefits. Firstly, they are easier to complete, depending on the degree topic. It would be expected that you have lots of experiences and skills behind you, which will help your success. Furthermore, most people I know who have completed a degree usually did this straight out of high school, and many say they will never go back. Doing a degree or even a second degree later in life can help you in your career where you are now, because the same degree completed 30 years ago is vastly different from the same degree today.

Doing any higher education course has the benefit of NOW. The most UpToDate information and skills are learned, helping keep up with your competition the younger person vying for your position.

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Tip #22 – Poor Man Pays Twice

There is a reason luxury items cost a lot of money; they last the distance. I remember when I was younger, I bought an expensive t-shirt from a high-end luxury boutique. It was not my intention to pay that much for a T-shirt, but I was so embarrassed I did not want to look like I could not afford it and purchased it. However, what I realised was that one T-shirt lasted over 10 years and still looked great. When I have bought cheaper clothes, they do not last this long, and I have had to buy them 4 times. Hence poor man pays twice.

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Tip #23- Give Your Full Attention

A few years ago, a lesson I learnt was that when someone requires your attention, stop what you are doing and focus your attention on that person. This includes putting your phone down or looking up from the computer. Concentrate your attention on the person shows a lot about you as a leader/person. It shows respect. If you can’t stop what you are doing, acknowledge the person and let them know you will be with them as soon as possible. This is especially important for children. If you continue to ignore people, they will stop seeking your attention. They will seek the attention of someone else, don’t ever let that opportunity pass you.

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Tip #24- Go to Bed Early and Rise Early

The National Sleep Foundation guidelines advise that healthy adults need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep per night. Babies, young children, and teens need even more sleep to enable their growth and development. Therefore, for optimal performance, get the recommended amount of sleep each day. I recommend going to bed early and rising early. Our metabolism starts to slow down sometime in the late afternoon. We tend to get tired around 3pm to 4pm, decreasing our attention span and concentration. This is why many schools finished at this time and high-risk jobs such as a construction worker.

To get the best out of yourself go to bed early, sometime between 9pm – 10pm and rise around 4am – 5am. Rising early when the rest of the world (except for shift and night workers) is still asleep is a magical time. You are very alert, there is often an eerier silence as the roads are quiet and the birds have not yet quite woken up, the sun is also still sleeping. Many successful people swear by this routine. It may take some getting used to but give it a try and reap the benefits of at least 3 hours of uninterrupted silent time. You will achieve more in those 3 hours than you will for the rest of the day.

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Tip #25 – Give Yourself More Credit

There is nothing more damaging to your self-esteem than telling yourself you are not good enough. We are all equal; we just need to give ourselves more credit. Think about everything you have achieved or succeeded in life that is worth giving yourself more credit for. Do not sell yourself short, do not let anyone tell you, you are not good enough. Keep your head up, and be confident in your abilities. Sometimes and in some situations, whether it be a job or relationship, it is not the right fit, don’t settle just accept that it is not the right fit for you and move on.

Tip #26 Spend Time With Your Kids

Do you have kids? If so, put aside some uninterrupted time each day to be with them. You can learn so much from kids, but most importantly, you have the opportunity to teach and nurture a child. From my experience, this can be one of the most valuable gifts you can give your kids. Kids want and need your attention, and if you do not provide it to them, they will seek it from someone or someplace else. Work is work and will always be there, but your kids won’t be kids forever. Put your phone down, switch it off it you have to. Be present at every moment and spend as much time as possible.

Getting outdoors or away for a short break is beneficial to your health and your relationship with your family. Try leaving all electronics at home and turn the phone off. Do not let life pass you by and wonder how you didn’t get time to play with your kids.

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Tip #27 – Give Pro Bono Work or Volunteer

Volunteering or using your expertise to help someone never goes unnoticed. Besides the great feeling, you get from the act. Volunteering can bring you a wealth of new skills, new contacts, and can even lead to new job opportunities. There are many ways you can volunteer just look for a cause you are passionate about and get in contact with your local organisation. Furthermore, having volunteered on your resume looks more favourable to potential employees.

365 Personal Development Tips 11-20

Personal Development tips can be so valuable to our growth. Personal development is about growth, body, mind and soul. Many of the tips I share, have been past down to me from my Mother, Grandparents, Friends and Extraordinary people I have admired and looked up to over the years.

As the old quote says “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Not matter what reason people always leave a tip or two.

Tip #11 – Be Kind to Everyone

One of the greatest joys I get is seeing a person’s eyes light up when I show them kindness. I believe that kindness is lacking in our society today because people are sceptical of a kind act. However, this is not true to those more vulnerable or innocent, such as the homeless, elderly, kids, and animals. My partner and I will not walk past a homeless person without offering to buy them something to eat and in most cases, give them some money. It is not the money that gives these people joy, it is the sheer fact that someone has stopped to show them kindness. When you show someone who may be down on their luck a bit of kindness, you will see just how grateful and humble a human can be. However, do not limit yourself to anyone in particular be kind to everyone.

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Tip #12 – Work on your Core Muscles

Many moons ago I meet a guy once who had ABs of steel, no joke they were incredible. I asked him  what he was doing to get such an impress six-pack . His response was five thousand (5000) sit-ups a week. That memory has stayed with me for an exceptionally long time, and when COVID-19 hit, and
we went into lockdown, I thought about that guy and thought I would try it. Turns out five thousand sit-ups a week is no easy feat, well at least for me anyway. I have managed to do two-hundred sit-ups per day, which is about fifteen hundred (1500) per week so far.

Fifteen hundred (1500) sit-ups /crunches/Abdominal exercise have yielded me some impressive results. thus far. My belly has drastically reduced in size, and I have a much firmer midsection. I still have more work to do, but I have maintained two hundred (200) or more a day for the past six (6) months.
I started my Abs of steel journey doing twenty (20) per day, and slowly increased this to fifty (50) per day. Some days, I break up the two hundred (200) into rounds of fifty (50) spread throughout the day.

Working on my abs everyday has not only given me a great stomach, but better posture and I feel more confident. I walk taller and feel a lot more confident. I have limited eating pasta, potatoes and limited my bread intake as these foods bloat my stomach. I challenge you to give it a go, age and size is no barrier, just start with a few crunches per day and work your way up. I have added inside crunches, planks, and other abdominal training varieties as an extra to the two hundred (20)0 per day. My goal is to hit that five thousand (5000) per week.

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Tip #13 – Avoid Anything Toxic

Toxins can affect us in more ways than we know, therefore, try to avoid them as much as possible. We often forget that toxins are not just environmental, like pollution, so here is a reminder of what to avoid. Although not an exhaustive list. Some of the more well-known and apparent Toxins.

Human Toxins– Negative People, Gossiping, Swearing,
Spreading Rumours, Bullying, Talking Badly about Someone. Fat Shaming. Cyber
Bullying. The Tall Poppy Syndrome. Road Rage. Violence. Nasty people. Criminal
activity. Rude People. Cruelty. Destructive Behaviour. Dishonesty. Disrespect.
Unhealthy Relationships. Selfishness.

Man-Made Toxins- Alcohol, Drugs and Smoking. Pornography.
Toxic Foods and Chemicals- see below.

Toxic Foods– Fatty foods, High sugar, High fructose corn
syrup, and Starchy Foods. Saturated Fats. Trans Fats. Processed Foods.
Artificial Colours and Flavours. Polycyclic Aromatic Hydrocarbons (PAHs) (Red
Meats). Mercury in Fish. Monosodium Glutamate (MSG). Sodium Nitrate. Caffeine
(although hard to avoid :)).

Pollution– Environmental, Air, Water and Noise.

Chemicals– Pesticides. Parabens, Sulphate Bisphenol-A
(BPA). Ammonia. to name a minimal list

Tip #14 – Take a Walk Every day.

I was recently reminded by the CEO of my current workplace how important it is to get out and go for a walk. Often, especially at work, we can be tied to our desks and do not take the time to go for a walk. When we get out, we exercise, breathe in some fresh air, and get some sunshine. A walk whether at work or
home has many benefits and we should do this more often. Buy some good runners, go for a 15-minute walk. You can use the time to meditate, Listen to music or a podcast, have an enjoyable conversation or take your kids for a bike ride.

Tip #15 – Learning a New Skill Increases your Value.

In today’s modern world, it is no longer just ok to learn one skill. If you want to move ahead in your area of expertise, change your career or better yourself, then it is important to diversify your skills. Having new skills can make you an unbelievably valuable asset and even more beneficial if you have multiple skills in various areas. Furthermore, the more diverse your skills are, the better you become as a person, making you even more employable.

What skills should you learn, and how do you learn a new skill?

It is a great question, and it all depends on your current situation, environment and where you see yourself in the future. My future goal is to be running a successful online retail business; therefore, I have identified that I need to learn skills such as marketing, SEO, google ads, and social media marketing, to name a few. Of
course, I could always outsource any of these skills, and I will. However, if I do not have these skills, how can I find someone who is the expert in that skill to outsource in the first place?

Tip #16 – Exercise your Legs.

When you train your legs in the gym, your core and cardiovascular system also get a workout. There is a reason many people avoid training their legs, it is a hard workout and can often wipe you out. That is the idea!

Exercise your legs more than your upper body and reap the rewards. You will have a more muscular stance, stronger mid-section, buns of steel and stronger inner core muscles. As we age, our pelvic floor muscle become weak if we do not train them, and this can lead to all sorts of challenges. Training legs using weight will help tighten all that up for you.

If you are not sure where to start to try this routine, start with bodyweight, and slowly add weight. Although I encourage you to work out in a gym, this routine can be done anywhere, at any time. Adding weight to your body is only limited by your imagination. During the lockdown, I had my son on my back while
I performed the below routine, apart for jumping as this may cause injury.

20 x Body Weight Squats x 4

20 x Lunges x 4

20 x Single Leg Squats x 3

For an added extra kick add- 50 x Jump Squats plus 50 Jump Lunges x 2 (Caution
do not do any jumping exercises with weights if you have bad knees, ankles, hips,
or any back issues).

If you can manage to get to a gym, you can also add the Leg Press, Deadlifts and Machines for an extra leg workout.

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Tip- #17 – Learn Something New Everyday

Humans are creatures that strive to learn every day. How good does it feel when you learn something new? It may be something as small as trivia or something large like a new system at work. Either we should be seeking to learn something. If you learn something new by mistake all that much better. I challenge you to learn one new thing every day. If you get to the end of the day and have not learnt something, subscribe to a
Word App such as Vocabulary.com and learn a new word, grammar, spelling and vocabulary.

Tip #18 – Increase your Software Knowledge.

Do you know what all the buttons in the taskbar in Microsoft Word or Excel?

Do you know what the F buttons on a keyboard are for?

You may not have advanced computers or software skills like Microsoft Word or Excel. However, with only fifteen minutes of training per day, you can become advanced in any computer software you like, and very fast. LinkedIn Learning has many training courses that can help you in learning
or developing your software skills. Learning or enhancing your computer skills adds value to your ever growing skill set. When you learn a new skill on LinkedIn learning you are rewarded with a certificate which you can link directly to your LinkedIn account for everyone to see. Furthermore, LinkedIn learning has a plethora of other skills you can learn as well. Do yourself a favour subscribe today.

Tip #19 – Watch Documentaries

When you watch a documentary, you often learn things you never knew about.
Furthermore, your newfound knowledge can be an enjoyable conversation starter. You could even store the facts you learn for another day in time as a contestant on a game show. These days we are spoilt for choice regarding documentaries, whether it be about someone famous, infamous, history, science, global warming, or social media the options are endless.

Streaming services such as Netflix have some cool documentaries in many genres. However, you cannot go past the documentaries that Sir David Attenborough has produced such as, the OUR PLANET series, some powerful and informative stuff. If you have not seen the social dilemma (also on netfilx), watch it and let me know what you think.

Tip #20 – Train your Brain

Sudoku, Crossword puzzles and Jigsaw puzzles are excellent brain training tools. Playing puzzles can be fun, challenging, and frustrating. But they are extremely rewarding when you figured them out and complete them. You may not solve the puzzle in fifteen (15) minutes, however, try to work on a puzzle
for about 15 minutes each day. According to James Pickett, head of research at the UK’s Alzheimer’s Society suggests that playing “brain games” such as Sudoku may not prevent dementia but has been shown that regularly challenging yourself mentally seems to build up the brain’s ability to cope with the disease.

Other benefits include- Puzzles exercise both sides of the brain, increase your mood through dopamine release, they improve memory, improve your problem-solving skills, improve your visual and spatial reasoning, lower your stress levels, and they can improve your IQ score. Need another reason to do a
puzzle, they are family-friendly and fun.

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